How to find your mojo when it goes walkabout…
We are living in challenging times. The word ‘unprecedented’ has been used so often it may even become the 2020 word of the year. So many of my clients are feeling overwhelmed and at sea. The feeling is real.
The thing is, getting out of your own way isn’t always the easiest thing to do. I get it. I’ve been in a bit of a downward spiral, too.
And then I decided it was time to find my mojo. As a seasoned AIPer and mentor, I know all about the importance of being very purposeful about this life I’m living and the choices I make. In fact, remembering to make this my priority has become my priority.
Today, I want to lay the groundwork to help you find your mojo.
And if your mojo is in a pretty good place at the mo’, my hope is that some of these pointers might resonate with you so much that you’ll bookmark this page to refer back to because you never know when your mojo will go walkabout!
The thing about any sort of health caper is that it is hard work. It takes considerable effort. You’ve no doubt got a voice in your head second-guessing the things you are doing already. So when you add some of the global happenings to your already challenging list of things to tackle, it can just seem a bit too much for one girl to handle.
mojo
noun
a quality that attracts people to you and makes you successful and full of energy: She’s definitely lost her mojo.
Synonyms: talent, energy, ability, special sauce
MOJO INSPO’
When you think about AIPers and health seekers with oodles of mojo, I wonder who pops into your mind? I’m talking those #bloodyfabulous women who seem to have their shizzle together in the face of all the adversity around them. The ones who are comfortable in their own skin and being who they are; owning their ‘stuff’.
Sarah Ballantyne is one for me, of course. As is my good mate, Eileen over at Phoenix Helix. I’m a long-time admirer of the ever charismatic V from V Capaldi, too
For me, these are three women who display qualities that I admire and aspire to myself. That’s not to say that I want to be exactly like them – because that’s hardly realistic. I am me and they are they. But, the consistent quality that each of these women has that I admire is a consistency of purpose. I love that about them. To me, they well and truly have their mojo nailed down…
Of course, I’m sure Sarah and Eileen and V all have their moments. But equally, I’m willing to bet that they each have a pretty impressive mindset. They know that how they talk to themselves affects their mojo.
WANTING to find your MOJO versus deserving it
I don’t know about you but I’ve been having moments of fatalistic thoughts of late. That is, a sense that the events going on around me in the world are inevitable and outside my control. And this is quite a shift from how I usually navigate my shizzle. That is, having a reasonably well-developed internal locus of control, and firmly believing I am the master (mistress?!) of my attitude.
Ultimately, when your mojo goes walkabout, the only one who can find it for you again is you. And this requires a shift in thinking – you’ve got to believe you’re worth the effort. (spoiler alert: you are SO worth the effort!)
But, there are some things you can do to help with mojo reinvigoration. These are all things that helped me:
Know your ‘why’
What is your very personal reason for digging deep and sticking with your ‘stuff’, even when life throws you a curveball?
Finding your WHY, connecting with your purpose, is an important part of the equation when it comes to keeping on keeping on.
I created my Wheel of Health as a means to help me stay connected to my WHY. It’s a straightforward way for me to prioritise what’s important for me right now in my AIP way of life.
Get Comfortable with discomfort
We’ve all heard the refrain – If you do what you’ve always done you’ll get what you’ve always got. But there is a reason we’ve all heard this before – it’s true!
Sometimes finding your mojo can be as simple as trying something new; getting outside your comfort zone.
And, it doesn’t have to be earth-shattering. Simply choosing something new or different for you. I recently did this by getting back into the water. In the middle of winter, mind you.
I was always such a water baby as a kidliwink. But then life and my hideous HS, and extra kilos made me so self-conscious about getting into a swimsuit. Well, that pic’ to the left was taken a couple of days ago as I stepped outside my comfort zone.
Allow yourself to dream
When you follow a health protocol, it is often necessary to break things down into manageable, bite-sized chunks as a means to reduce the overwhelm of what you want to achieve. And this can be a good way to navigate a framework like the AIP.
It’s easy to get stuck in those weeds…
Sometimes, metaphorically looking up is the very best way to help you find your mojo; to dream about what might be possible. And, when I want to engage in this process, I find the art of creative visualisation a great way to get real about manifesting my ‘stuff’.
Regret-Proof your shizzle
We get one shot at this life. I find it can be good to remind myself of this.
Get super honest with yourself about what you don’t want to regret in your life. It’s an interesting way to shift the needle and look at the world differently.
I’m a fan of creating intentions and making very intentional choices, but if you’re struggling with the idea of regret-proofing your life, asking yourself what sort of legacy you want to leave is a good way to begin.
Exercise your planning muscle. Regularly.
When you’ve sorted out your WHY, and connected with your purpose and started thinking about regret-proofing, well – you want to start moving in the right direction by getting some tangible ‘wins’ on your mojo board.
Set some goals. Sounds simple, but you do actually have to do this for it to work.
Me, I like to take some time at the beginning of every month to consider what I’d like to achieve over the next 30 days or so. Sometimes I hit them out of the park. Sometimes I don’t. But my goals keep me moving.
Believe (REALLY believe) that you’re worth the effort
If I had a dollar for every time a client told me they felt taking time for themselves was selfish or self-indulgent, I’d be a seriously rich woman. Understanding your needs is a vital step in finding your mojo. And the only way you’ll achieve that is by putting yourself in the driver’s seat and believing in the marrow of your bones that you’re worth it.
You are SO worth it!
